What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T

What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T
Fishing for piranhas on the Amazon and exploring the jungle was how we spent our first international holiday season, and we’re now planning a trip to Tibet for this year’s holidays. What an incredible 15 months we’ve had traveling.

From Brazil to Switzerland to China, from Portuguese to German to Mandarin,  it’s been a thrilling and challenging experience. One year ago this week we launched the Working 2 Live, Living 2 Travel blog three months after moving to São Paulo. For the past 15 months we’ve been moving internationally every six months, attempting to learn a new language, adapting to a new culture, making new friends, and all the other adventures that come along with travel. In celebration of the blog’s one-year anniversary, we’ve compiled our top five lessons learned since undertaking this adventure.

It’s never been easier to stay in touch with old friends or to make new friends

We’ve often told friends that we can’t imagine what it would have been like traveling in the 1970s, 1980s or maybe even the 1990s before the advent of Skype, Facebook and other means of free or cheap communication tools. With Google Voice, we’re able to call any American phone for free to reach those who do not use modern technology. A VPN allows us to regain communication tools and hometown newspapers blocked in particular destinations. This technology makes it much easier to see the world while still staying in touch with all the happenings back home.

What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T
Riding a dune buggy in the sand dunes of Natal, Brazil with our friend, Rafael, who we met at the hostel. We’ve met many interesting people during our travels we still keep in touch with.

When traveling, we’re cautious but also open. We listen to others’ stories and often stay in hostels or other areas frequented by travelers. We hear new ideas and make new friends. Occasionally, we stay in touch using the same communication means mentioned above and we may meet some of our closest future friends on any weekend trip. While you fear losing friends each time you move, our lifestyle has helped us gain more friendships rather than less. Many of those friendships become stronger as they endure time and great distances.

You will never completely be at home again because part of your heart will always be elsewhere. That is the price you pay for the richness of loving and knowing people in more than one place. 

Speak the local language when possible and always listen

What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T
Our first visit together to the famous Moulin Rouge in Paris. French is a beautiful language, and we try to speak the little we know while in France.

Upon his return from two years in Mozambique, our friend, Daniel, told us that the more you learn the language, the more you are able to understand the culture. He was completely right. In each place we’ve resided, the more we learn of a language, the more we have been able to join in local customs and understand the idiosyncrasies of locals. Even the smallest amount of knowledge on the local language goes a long way. Many complain that the French refuse to speak English even when fluent. This will likely be true if you approach a person in Paris and immediately begin speaking English. However, even the simple effort to say “Bonjour Monsieur/Madame parlez-vous anglais?” will often reap enough benefits to carry on in conversation. We’re really struggling with the four tones of the Chinese language and several meanings for words that appear the same but every effort counts.

Wherever you go, resist the urge to talk more than you listen. Each traveler carries so many stories and if you will stop to listen rather than spilling out your own, as in almost any environment, you will learn so much more.

There is a reason we have two ears and one mouth. 

Plan but be spontaneous

What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T
A drummer marches during the Fasnacht parade in Chur, Switzerland. We didn’t event know what Fasnacht was until we stumbled upon it during a non-planned visit to downtown.

We know people who research vehemently before heading to their next destination and layout an agenda of everywhere they want to go. While it’s a good idea to be informed, we recommend setting priorities rather than specific times. Before departing, we use sites like WikiTravel, WikiVoyage and TripAdvisor as well as recommendations from friends to compile a list of destinations and sometimes directions on how to get there. However, we don’t assign times, only priorities (whether written or mental) on where we prefer to go.

Don’t be the guy who never leaves the neighborhood of his lodging but also don’t be the guy so busy that travel becomes more like a chore than an enjoyment. Don’t be afraid to accept that invitation to an awesome diner next door because it will throw you two hours behind on your schedule. You never know where your next travel story will come from.  As for that list of priorities, each time we visit Paris we knock off the top few and leave the rest of the list for the next visit.

Why not seize the pleasure at once? How often is happiness destroyed by preparation, foolish preparation! 

Don’t put off what you can do now – never miss an opportunity to see something today

What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T
Seeing the Pope during Easter services at the Vatican was an opportunity of a lifetime. Learning from other cultures opens your views to countless possibilities.

If you’re afraid of how others worship or if you are offended by how others express their political views, then you’re missing amazing opportunities. We have witnessed Candomble ceremonies in northeastern Brazil, gathered with followers of the Pope on Easter Day in Rome, and dined with Muslims breaking fast at the end of each day during Ramadan. Each time we see people on Earth praise and worship the deity of their choice, we see more similarities and less differences in their ideas than we expected. Each time we hear someone give a stance on an issue, it may not change our stance on the issue at all but will open our minds and better educate us in defending our own stance. How can you be right and they be wrong if you never considered what the other side said or did?

As we look back today, we really wished we would have more thoroughly explored Mexico before it became severely plagued by cartels or that we would have visited Egypt prior to the rebellions. The lesson that we have taken from these circumstances is to take each opportunity that arises rather than pushing it to a later year. Wars, depressions and natural disasters can easily change those opportunities quite drastically over time.

If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay at home.

Don’t be owned by your material possessions

Before we left the U.S., we began renting out our Virginia home and placed some of our belongings in storage while selling or giving away others. While we sometimes miss our awesome Prohibition era home and Huntington Heights neighbors or a rainy Saturday in our living room decorated with New Orleans art, there is so much truth to what George Carlin says:

Chris’ grandmother once had a fire destroy much of her house and many of her possessions. While sharing wisdom with her many grandchildren and great-grandchildren, she often mentions that fire as the point when she learned to find treasures outside of materialistic possessions. Remember that with each pet, sofa or car that you gain, you lose mobility and your ability to travel. Photographs can be stored electronically today, adding to the possessions of e-books and downloaded entertainment that takes up space only in the virtual cloud rather than in our physical homes. We continue to collect art and memorable pieces to throw into storage for that future home once our travels are less frequent, but we continue to value sentimental memories recorded in our minds and on our hard drives over materialistic possessions.

What a ride: Celebrating one year of W2LL2T
Celebrating the end of 2012 with the International Newcomers Club in São Paulo, Brazil. As we near the end of 2013, we look forward to many more travel adventures to share with you on W2LL2T.

It is the preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else that prevents us from living freely and nobly. 

Here’s to our one-year anniversary with the hope of many more travel stories to share. Want to celebrate with us? Share what traveling has taught you in the comments. For the best lesson shared by Dec. 31, we’ll send you a set of decorative Chinese chopsticks. Happy Travels!

-Chris & Monica

WorkLife Travel Destination: Atlanta

WorkLife Travel Destination: Atlanta
WorkLife Travel Destination: Atlanta
The iconic Bank of America Plaza and SunTrust Plaza towers are central to the Atlanta skyline. The “New York of the South” was recently voted one of the best cities to live for young professionals.

Known as the New York City of the South, Atlanta holds great sentimental value for me. It is the city I started my career in, the city where I first started dating Chris and where I accepted his marriage proposal, and it is where I felt like a true bonafide adult for the first time. For professional and personal reasons, Atlanta is a great place to get your start.

Favorite Atlanta Places

World of Coca-Cola

Chris studied brand loyalty in business school, and he consistently teases me about my diehard loyalty to certain brands. Supposedly there are only two states in the Union that care so vehemently about their soda choice; Georgia for Coca-Cola and Kentucky for Pepsi. Split by family history to these two states, I am strictly a Coca-Cola drinker. Yes, there is very much a difference, and I refuse to drink Pepsi.

At the World of Coca-Cola, I can have my fill of my favorite beverage. Packed full of information about the soft drink from its historical beginnings in Georgia to its global market reach today, the exhibition is fun for all despite your refreshment preference. My favorite part is the tasting section where you can sample Coca-Cola from around the world. Throughout our many travels, I’m always curious to see what the famous formula tastes like in each country, and the samples in Atlanta match up quite well with their foreign counterparts.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Atlanta
The home where she wrote the Southern classic, the Margaret Mitchell House offers tours and a look behind the scenes of the making of “Gone with the Wind.”

Margaret Mitchell House

I don’t believe there is a kid in the Georgia public school system, or in the South for that matter, that gets through school without studying Margaret Mitchell’s classic Gone With The Wind. In midtown, you can tour the Margaret Mitchell House where the writer penned the novel of Scarlet O’Hara and Rhett Butler and all the other famous characters in the Civil War South. There is also an exhibition with interesting behind-the-scenes information about the movie.

Virginia Highland

When I moved into the city, I found a great little apartment on Ponce de Leon Avenue in the Virginia Highland neighborhood. Till this day, that one-bedroom apartment has been my favorite apartment I’ve ever lived in. I was within walking distance of great entertainment venues, food markets, unique shopping boutiques, art galleries, up-and-coming restaurants, and everything you could want from a neighborhood. If you’re looking for a nice Sunday brunch or lively happy hours, Virginia Highland has something for every taste.

Georgia Aquarium

The Georgia Aquarium had just opened when I moved to Atlanta at the beginning of 2006. The city’s tourism theme at that time was “Every day is opening day” due to the many restaurant, entertainment venues and other business openings consistently happening around the metropolis.

Debuting as the world’s largest aquarium, there are more than 100,000 sea creatures swimming in more than 10 million gallons of water. From dolphin shows to the only whale shark exhibit outside of Asia, the Georgia Aquarium offers breathtaking scenery with loads of educational resources on the animals of the oceans.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Atlanta
A moving piece of art features what Dr. King strived for in the Civil Rights Movements. Artwork and historical artifacts can be viewed in the museum portion of the Center.

The Martin Luther King Jr. Center for Nonviolent Social Change

A powerful and moving museum dedicated to a main figure of the Civil Rights Movement, the Martin Luther King Jr. Center for Nonviolent Social Change is centrally located in a preserved historic district. Along with the many exhibits in the museum, visitors can also tour Ebenezer Baptist Church, the birth home and crypt of Dr. King, and more in the 23-acre National Historic Site.

Centennial Olympic Park

As home to the 1996 Olympics, the Centennial Olympic Park marks Atlanta’s historical hosting of the games. Today, the park is the site of many festivals and concert series. In the summer, large groups of bathing-suit-clad children can be seen running through the fountains.

Near the park are major landmarks, such as the CNN Center, Georgia Dome and Philips Arena. If a tour of a news studio or the home of the Atlanta Falcons and Hawks, respectively, isn’t your thing, a bit further out you can find Turner Field where the Atlanta Braves have been hitting home runs since 1997 and Zoo Atlanta, home to a recently-arrived pair of Panda cubs.

Atlanta Eats

Atlanta is known for its wide array of dining options. From posh gourmet to Southern favorites, you can satisfy any palette in the capital city.

One of my favorite restaurants of all time is a small Cuban joint on Ponce called Papi’s. My usual dish here is the flank steak with black beans and rice and fried plantains (I’m getting hungry just writing about this). Chris must have barbecue from Fat Matt’s Rib Shack anytime we’re in town. Usually we only recommend places with good food, but if you’re a first timer to Atlanta, you have to check out The Varsity. The food is lousy, but the service experience is a one-of-a-kind. Just make sure you know what you’re ordering before you get to the counter; patience is not a virtue here. If you’re looking for an unique Southern eatery, look no further than Pitty Pat’s Porch, a Gone With The Wind- themed restaurant serving fried chicken, shrimp and grits, fried green tomatoes, sweet tea, pecan pie, peach cobbler and other favorites (seriously, I’m starving now).

Working in Atlanta

As a major business hub and on its way to becoming one of the best cities for tech start-ups, Atlanta offers much in the way of a work-life balance. For the insider’s perspective on maintaining this balance, I asked a former high school classmate, John Duncan, what makes the ATL such a wonderful place.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Atlanta
Showing off the engagement rings in the Glenn Hotel the day of the proposal in 2007. I give Atlanta an 8+. What would you give it?

I like Atlanta for its relative close proximity to the ocean and mountains,” says John who has worked for more than five years as a graphic designer in the city. Also, with three major business areas, Downtown, Buckhead and Sandy Springs/Dunwoody, John explains the variety Atlanta offers. “It has all of the culture and amenities of a big city, but it has kept its neighborhoods and districts intact so you can choose a place to live depending on your personality and what you like to do.”

Hartfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport, the largest airport in the world, makes traveling to and from the city convenient and easy, says John. “It has almost any direct flight you would need, and if you have to travel a lot for work, being in Atlanta makes it more time and cost conscious.”

On the negative side, traffic can be torturous in Atlanta. “Depending on where you live or whether or not you have access to MARTA, as the districts are spread out, you will be sitting in traffic,” says John.

According to the season, there are a variety of activities for weekend entertainment, according to John. Sports fans have the major league games to take in, or if you’re more of a music fan, new acts come every week to the city. John enjoys visiting the High Museum of Art for various exhibitions.

I give Atlanta a 8+. What is your favorite city in the South?

-Monica

WorkLife Travel Destination: Louisville

WorkLife Travel Destination: Louisville
No matter how your pronounce it, Louisville offers a mix of classic and modern tradition.

Home to the Kentucky Derby and baseball bats, Louisville, Ky., was my first adult home outside of Georgia. It’s a mix of old money and new riches, traditional charm and contemporary tastes, and classic design and modern appeal. And, if you want to say it like a local, say it with me now – Loo-uh-vul.

 

 

Favorite Louisville Places

Bardstown Road

A stretch of road lies in this Southern town that feels like it’s been plucked right out of the most Bohemian of neighborhoods. From the vintage boutiques to hipster pubs, it’s the lifeblood of The Highlands area. I spent many weekends at one of the many local coffee shops or browsing the classics at the now-sadly-closed ear-X-tacy independent record store or taking a stroll through Cave Hill Cemetery where the legendary KFC Col. Sanders is buried.

Whenever I’m back in town, I usually meet friends for drinks at Molly Malone’s in this wonderful neighborhood. At the beginning of Bardstown Road you can find the oldest nightclub in town, the Phoenix Hill Tavern. If you’re looking for a more laid-back nightlife scene, be sure to check out the bars here over the more touristy 4th Street Live complex.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Louisville
Home of the world-famous Kentucky Derby, the track and museum at Churchill Downs is a sight to see. Learn about renowned jockeys and the historical lineage of the thoroughbreds that have taken the roses every year since 1875.

Churchill Downs

In the spring of 2007, Chris and I joined all the drunk and crazy University of Louisville students and others in the infield who couldn’t afford the good seats at Churchill Downs to catch a glimpse of Street Sense take the roses. A classic tradition, the track and its surrounding glamour offer even the most uninitiated horse racing enthusiast a chance to get up-close-and-personal with the posh side of the sport. The museum on the grounds and the guided tours are especially interesting, focusing on the traditions and lives of famous horses and jockeys.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Louisville
The six-story high replica of Babe Ruth’s Louisville Slugger bat is a landmark in the downtown area. Learn about other greats of America’s favorite pastime in the Louisville Slugger Museum & Factory.

Louisville Slugger Museum & Factory

If you go to Louisville and neglect to have your photo taken with the six-story-high replica of Babe Ruth’s bat, you’re just insulting the city. At the Louisville Slugger Museum & Factory you can tour where these famous baseball bats come from and learn the preferences of the heavy hitters of MLB history. As a complimentary souvenir, you’ll receive a miniature Louisville Slugger. Just be sure that you put this little bat into your checked baggage as the TSA at the Louisville International Airport display a case of the confiscated ones at the security check.

Down the street from the museum and factory, you’ll find the Louisville Slugger Field where the Louisville Bats, the Triple A team for the Cincinnati Reds, take on regional challengers each spring.

Muhammad Ali Center

Growing up in Louisville, Cassius Clay (which, you’ll find many varied streets in the city named for the beloved son) began his boxing career at a local gym. Going on to become The Great Muhammad Ali of the sport, the legend and his family opened the Muhammad Ali Center in 2005. With a mission to encourage multicultural learning and inspire others to live the core principles the boxing great has dedicated his life to, the Center offers interesting exhibits and programs in a great space.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Louisville
There are many wonders along the Ohio River to see. A dinner cruise on the Belle of Louisville is a great way to take it all in.

The Ohio River

Founded on the industry of a river town, Louisville owes its existence to the Ohio River whose banks it sits upon. Be sure to take a dinner cruise on the famous Belle of Louisville or cross the bridge into Indiana to check out the millions-of-years-old fossil beds of the Falls of the Ohio River.

Louisville Eats

If you want to go the traditional route, try a Kentucky Hot Brown at the historic Brown Hotel in downtown Louisville. If you want a regional specialty, check out a Skyline Chili in The Highlands. Great brunch places can be found on Market Street, such as Toast on Market.

If you want soul, check out my old neighborhood’s Chicken King, a favorite staple of mine. It’s off East Broadway, but, be warned, I didn’t necessarily live in the best neighborhood in the city. The guys on my street that looked uncannily like actors who portrayed shady characters on Law and Order always waved at me on my way to work, though.

Working in Louisville

With a varied landscape of industries, from tourism to shipping (home of UPS), there are many work opportunities in Louisville. For a closer look at working in The ‘Ville, I asked my former co-worker, Carol Labashosky, from the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers, Louisville District Public Affairs Office to give us some insight.

Working in the Derby City for the past 13 years, Carol applauds Louisville for its “big small city” feel. “Louisville is easy to get around, logistically and personally. The people are friendly, and connecting here is much easier than in major markets,” she says.

WorkLife Travel Destination: Louisville
I give Louisville a 7+. What would you give it?

When she’s not fielding questions from the media about public works or military construction projects, Carol spends time in her Barking Dog Enterprises art studio where she invented Scrapboarding, a fine-art technique where she takes painting, photographs or memorabilia and affixes them to boards or canvas. Carol says “the art community in Louisville is thriving. Art events like outdoor sales, walks, shows and festivals are happening on a regular basis. With spaces like the Mellwood Art Center, Louisville has really become an artist destination.”

On the weekends, Carol takes her beloved Sheltie, Frosted Mugs, to the many lovely parks, like Iroquois Park. She also recommends checking out the many bourbon distilleries in the nearby area, like Four Roses, or taking in an outdoor concert.

I give Louisville a 7+. As Louisville is known for the Kentucky Derby, what’s your favorite city known especially for a special event?

-Monica 

WorkLife Travel Destination: London

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
A view from above of London. This capital of England supports a diverse culture of people from across the globe.

As you may know, I took my first international solo trip and first visit to London about two months ago. The experience, both of solo traveling and the city, were wonderful. London is a great place with such a mix of culture, sights and storied history. I knew I would like London, but I was surprised to really like London after all our other international travel. Over my three-day exploration of The Old Smoke, I fell in love with the place and it has become one of my top travel destinations.

Favorite Places

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
Royal guards stand at attention during the Changing of the Guard ceremony at Buckingham Palace. Home of Queen Elizabeth II, the palace is a top tourist destination for London.

Buckingham Palace

I was lucky enough to be in London during the royal birth and at Buckingham Palace when it was announced that the Duchess of Cambridge had gone into labor. To be present for such an historical event was in itself a grand experience, but to witness it at the epicenter of British royalty was epic.

My first full day in town, I spent about four hours at the palace. I watched the changing of the guard, observed the massive crowd anxiously awaiting the announcement if the new heir to the throne was a boy or girl, and news media personnel running in every direction possible doing live shots at every angle. It was quite the show.

Though the palace itself isn’t the most extraordinary building, the beauty is in the gates and fountains and gardens that surround it. I wasn’t able to go inside as tours are only permitted when the Queen is away for her summer holiday in Scotland, but just seeing it from the outside was pretty spectacular.

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
Often confused for London Bridge, Tower Bridge is a architectural piece of art. A London bridge is actually in Arizona now.

Tower Bridge

Often confused for the less-impressive London Bridge (funny sidebar, a London Bridge was actually sold to a developer in Arizona), the Tower Bridge is a beautiful drawbridge stretching across the Thames River. You can walk or drive across it, and it opens periodically to allow river traffic to pass. This is one of the most iconic landmarks for the city.

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
The Italian Fountains in Hyde Park are just one example of beautiful sculptures throughout the park. Spanning 350 acres, the park was home to the Great Exhibition of 1851.

Hyde Park

My hostel in London was just a few blocks from Hyde Park, so I spent a good part of my three days walking through this massive green space. Sculptures and fountains can be found throughout, and overlooking the park is Kensington Palace where the royal baby will be raised. The park is my No. 1 place to visit for London.

Tower of Queen Elizabeth

It’s not Big Ben! That’s just the nickname of the bell inside of the tower. Don’t feel bad, though. I can only act like I know what I’m talking about because the tour guide explained the difference to our group.

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
The Tower of Queen Elizabeth joins with Parliament to make a remarkable building along the Thames River.

Attached to Parliament, the tower combined with the impressive-looking building that houses the English bodies of government makes up another iconic landmark for London. It sits on the banks of the Thames River, and overlooks park space where Westminster Abbey can be found.

Wellington Arch Circle

Home to about six different monuments, the Wellington Arch Circle makes an easy-to-find meeting spot right on the corner of Hyde Park and direct walk to Buckingham Palace. Named for the First Duke of Wellington, Field Marshall Arthur Wellesley, two of the monuments in the circle represent his many accomplishments.

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
The Eye reaches 135 meters above London, making it the tallest Ferris wheel in all of Europe.

The Eye

I adore Ferris wheels, so I couldn’t go to London without taking a spin on the world-famous Eye. Standing at 135 meters (about 443 feet) tall, this ride gives breathtaking views of the city from above. As each cart is also air-conditioned, it gave a nice reprieve from the heat wave London was experiencing during my visit.

Tours

There are so many places to see in London, and I certainly did not get to everything I intended, such as Piccadilly Circus and the Tower of London where the Crown Jewels are housed. I have every intention of making several more trips to this spectacular city to continue my exploring.

I did get to see a lot of London, though, and it was through great tours. Chris and I found Sandemans New Europe Tours when we had a limited amount of time to show a visiting friend around Paris. The company’s brochures are usually in hostels in cities where they operate, and the tour guides are very knowledgeable with stories about each location. There is always a free walking tour to show you the main sights of a city, and then other very affordable tours will focus on specific areas and interests in the cities. We have taken these tours now in Paris, London, Berlin and Madrid, and we have found them to be great ways to become familiar with a new city.
(*Note, we have not been compensated in any way by Sandemans, this is only our opinion.)  

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
I found a new favorite to go along with my fish and chips at a British pub – cider!

Eats

In all honesty, I didn’t eat much in London. With trying to squeeze in as much as I could in sightseeing, I didn’t take the time to dive into the culinary scene. I went with the one requirement to have fish and chips at a pub, and I did that about twice. The rest of the time, I survived on snacks from street vendors.

I did, however, absolutely find a new drink. I don’t like hate beer. I can stomach a Corona with some salt and lime, but I much rather just have a margarita. No matter how hard I’ve tried in my adult life, I have just never been able to acquire a taste for the swill. So, when it comes to nights at a pub or tailgating for a football game or catching up with friends at a cookout, I’m just out of luck in the “let’s have a few brewskies” department.

Thanks to some British pubs, however, I have been saved by the grace of cider. In between our travels to London and Morocco, we stayed with Chris’ former soccer coach in a small town outside of London. This English gentleman that kept us laughing for hours with his antics and his lovely and proper wife introduced me to Pimm’s and cider, and, hallelujah, I finally found something I could actually order in draft form. For the rest of my trip to London, I was ordering StrongBow and whatever other ciders I could find at a pub.

Working in London

As New York City is to the United States, London is the career capital for England. For an insider’s perspective, Chris asked Sam Price, graduate recruitment coordinator for KPMG, to give us the scope on living and working in this ever-moving city.

Since moving to London in January, Sam says getting to work each day has been quite convenient. “The transport network is brilliant- buses, trains, London overground,  and the infamous London underground! So wherever you live, its practically impossible NOT to have an easy journey to work.”

WorkLife Travel Destination: London
Hanging out at Wellington Arch waiting on my tour to start. I give London a 9+. What would you give it?

Along with attracting such a variety of businesses, Sam also touts the mixture of people that can be found in most of London’s offices. “The diversity of cultures and backgrounds around London makes sure that your working environment has employees in it with different opinions, views and perspectives on things, which really helps creativity in teams and driving business forward. It also helps you learn about different cultures, languages etc.”

With the eclectic mix of restaurants, bars, cafes and clubs, Sam says the networking opportunities in London are endless. With the wide assortment of businesses and professionals, social events for networking happen all week long at almost every joint in town.

Come the weekend, Sam hangs out with friends at those same restaurants, bars, cafes and clubs in a more relaxed atmosphere. After a Friday night dinner and drinks, his Saturdays are full of opportunities. “… enjoying a stroll down Brick Lane in East London, finding a park festival in Brixton or Clapham, visiting some of the museums in Central London (most of which are free) … there are loads of markets to choose from as well, a favorite being Borough Market by London Bridge.”  For more shopping excursions, Sam recommends Carnaby Street, Oxford Circus and Seven Dials. And, if you’re looking for a day trip, check out Greenwhich with lots of boutique shops in a quaint setting.

Known in all of England for merry times, Sam says Saturday nights in London offer a host of options for music and drinks. “Hip hop and rap can be found in Concrete, dance and beats in Hoxton Square Bar and The Falcon, chart and dance in Dogstar, up and coming DJs in Fabric, Indie at Barfly, and rock in The Winchester. If you want a more chilled out vibe, then any bar in Central London can provide that for you, with a number of nice places in Covent Garden, Southbank and Regent Street.”

On a more relaxed Sunday, Sam takes his bike out to trails in one of the many London parks, such as Clapham or Wimbledon Common. He also recommends a nice walk along Thames Path.

I give London a 9+. What city have you surprisingly fell in love with?

-Monica

Morocco: Land of contrast

Morocco:Land of contrast
A Moroccan national flag flies in the wind in Casablanca. Every extreme, from cultural to geographical, can be found in this country of rich heritage.

From shorts to burkas, fasting to feasting, opulent to destitute, beaches to deserts, we saw all extremes in Morocco. For our first visit to Africa and our first volunteer trip, this country provided a great mix to experience cultures unlike any we have seen in previous travels.

The project

With Chris’ work policy that allows two paid weeks off for volunteer work, we wanted to best use the time to help in the most impactful way possible. We decided to provide assistance to a developing nation. Since this was our first overseas volunteer experience, we needed expert guidance. After researching our options, we chose to go through UBelong, a non-profit organization based in Washington, D.C., that partners with local non-profits to place international volunteers in positions that will most benefit the unique needs of the country.

Morocco: Land of contrast
Chris teaches the older children some math problems at the association. He found creative ways, like soccer-themed competitions, to engage the children.

We chose a project that would put our skills to good use. We were to work with children teaching English and social skills. UBelong works with Thaqafat Association, a Moroccan non-profit in Rabat, the capital city, that is establishing a culture of volunteerism in the country. As our program director explained, “volunteerism is a foreign concept in Morocco. You will often hear ‘I don’t understand. Why do you do it?'”

Morocco: Land of contrast
The children play a game called Romeo and Juliet, similar to our Marco Polo. Romeo is blindfolded as he searches for Juliet whose feet have been tied together.

Thaqafat paired us with a budding association in Salé, the neighboring city, that was developing to assist people with mental and physical disabilities. The association hadn’t exactly gotten on its feet, yet, so it was mainly operating as an after-school program for underprivileged children. In a small building in the city center, there were two rooms to teach the younger and older children and a room where ladies made candies they sold in the market places.

We partnered with two other volunteers to teach the children English mainly using pictures and gestures. As Arabic and French are the two main languages of Morocco, it did prove difficult to communicate. Fortunately, our fellow volunteer, Olivia, a student at Rice University, spoke French, and with the older children, we were able to get much across. When it came to the younger children who only knew Arabic, we relied on the association’s guide, a determined young man named Mustapha.

Morocco: Land of contrast
The children were remarkable, and our fellow volunteer, Olivia, was a lifesaver with her French skills.

We spent our two weeks in the country teaching the children everything from foods to colors to animals, playing games, and sharing information about ourselves and the U.S. These children were incredibly open to anything we offered to teach and extremely loving. The little boys adored Chris for his soccer-related teaching games, the little girls were thrilled to learn about jewelry, and I don’t think either one of us has ever received so many kisses on our cheeks (the traditional greeting and farewell) than our last day working there. To see and interact with these children who were so open and loving and curious, it truly was a remarkable experience. For a first volunteer assignment, I don’t think we could have chosen a better trip.

The people

Morocco:Land of contrast
Our wonderful host family made us feel right at home. From left, host father Khalid, host little brother Yassir, host little brother Charif and host mother Assia

As part of our assignment, we lived with a host family in the medina of Rabat. The medina is the most historic part of the city. A city within the city, the medina is enclosed in barrier walls that were once constructed to protect the ancient city.

Our host family was wonderful. Unlike many other host families, life was made easier for us with a host mother that spoke fluent English. She worked with many associations that taught Arabic and hosted internationals. Our host father took care of the home and the two young sons. We were made to feel welcomed right away and throughout our stay. We dined with the family each evening, and we attended special family dinners at the grandparent’s home.

Overall, the people of Morocco were welcoming. Many times over, random people on the streets would welcome us to their country and thank us for visiting. We were invited to have tea constantly, and people wanted to share information with us about the country.

The politics

Morocco: Land of contrast
Photos of King Mohammed VI could be found everywhere, like this beachfront walk in Casablanca.

Since the French colonization in the 1950s, the Moroccan government has loosened its religious grip on society. Though Islamic laws are enforced, there is much more freedom today in the constitutional monarchy.

From what we observed, the current leader, King Mohammed VI, is well loved by the majority of the people. Unlike his father and grandfather, he has allowed the people much more leeway in their decisions. As one Moroccan told us, “most of us love our king. We think he is sensible and has been good for Morocco. We just think his powers should be limited. We need a stronger Parliament. Our Parliament is weak, but what we do not want is to have the king overthrown and then have another king and another like Egypt.”

Morocco: Land of Contrast
Protestors light candles outside of Parliament in Rabat for children victims of crime. The king has since rescinded his pardon of a Spanish convicted pedophile.

While we were in country, there was a big controversy that erupted. As a favor to the king of Spain, King Mohammed pardoned a group of Spanish prisoners, allowing them to return to Spain. In the group was a convicted pedophile. Unlike his predecessors would have done, the king came out and apologized for the oversight, claiming he didn’t realize this particular prisoner was among the group. We witnessed protests and spirited debates about the topic.

I was quite surprised to see women taking part in these debates. Before our trip, I was nervous about the treatment of women in an Arabic country. To my delightful surprise, I came to realize that women in Morocco enjoy many freedoms. Before the French colonization, women were not allowed to leave the home, go to school or have jobs. Now, women are free to make the choices that will most benefit their lives. During our initial cultural training sessions with Thaqafat, we were even told how the laws in the country are changing to better protect women from assault.

In the old ways, a man could marry as many wives as he chose, with no regard to his other wives’ desires. Today, though polygamy is still lawful but not as popular, the first wife must give her permission before the man can take another wife. Also, where divorce could only have been sought by the husband in the past, now both parties can file for a divorce, and the wife can be entitled to the marital property.  Though there is still work to be done on the women’s rights front, steps are being taken in the right direction.

A little known interesting fact, Morocco was the first nation to recognize the newly independent United States of America in 1777. The Treaty of Peace and Friendship, re-negotiated in 1836, between the USA and Morocco is the USA’s longest remaining open treaty.

The fashion

Morocco: Land of contrast
A vendor is the Fes medina sells the traditional outfit for women. Buying one for myself, these smocks proved to be quite comfortable.

Continuing to be pleasantly surprised, I found all sorts of manner of fashion in Morocco. With the relaxed laws, we saw women in every imaginable clothing combination. From Western short outfits to the full burkas covering face and hands, women were very individualized. As our host mother put it, “If you are Muslim, you know what you should wear. It’s not like Saudi Arabia here.” Our Couchsurfer host in Casablanca also told us women are free to dress as they please, and Muslims are free to look away.

We also saw plenty of counterfeit goods. Many of the young men were dressed in Armani shirts, Tommy Hilfiger jeans and other designer brands. We found shops selling these clothes practically at every corner.

The food

As we were in Morocco during Ramadan, we only were able to enjoy Moroccan cuisine after the sun went down. Well into the night, though, we ate like kings.

Morocco: Land of contrast
Our traditional evening breaking of the fast at our host family’s home. We ate a varied selection each night during Ramadan.

Each evening when the call to prayer was made, we dined with our host family. Our host father created delicious feasts of meatballs, fruits, meat-filled pastries and soups. We always had fresh juices to wash it all down.

When we dined at the grandparent’s house, we enjoyed a traditional meal of roasted chicken and couscous. A national dish of sorts, couscous is made of corn and is most closely relatable to rice. It is usually served topped with various vegetables, and it is quite a heavy meal.

Meals are very communal, and everyone eats out of one cooking dish called a tajine.  In Morocco, utensils are little used. Instead, bread is at every meal and you use it to scope up your portion in the tajine.

Morocco: Land of contrast
Candies are sold throughout the medinas. Handmade, these sweets are loaded with sugar.

Moroccans are not shy of sugar. Specialty candy is everywhere, and loads of sugar are added to most drinks. One of our fellow volunteers even told us how her host mom added brown sugar as a topping to spaghetti.

Tea, or Moroccan whiskey as it is jokingly referred to, is the social drink. As alcohol is illegal for locals (foreigners can purchase beer in the supermarkets, but you must show your passport), people congregate at cafés  to share small cups of tea. As the social climate changes, more women are beginning to frequent cafes, but it can still be seen as taboo. One café Chris and I entered, I was the only woman in the place. Needless to say, I did receive some unpleasant looks throughout the evening.

The sights

With thousands of years of history and a diverse landscape, Morocco makes a rich tourist destination. Below are photos from places we visited in Rabat, Casablanca and Fes.

Morocco: Land of contrast
The Hassan II Mosque in Casablanca is the largest mosque in the country.

 

Morocco: A land of contrast
A view of the medina in Fes from a former palace. The Fes medina is considered one of the largest in the world.
Morocco: Land of contrast
The Fes medina is widely known for the use of donkeys in transportation needs.
Morocco: Land of contrast
The Hassan Tower in Rabat was intended to be the world’s largest minaret and mosque. When Sultan Yacoub al-Mansour died in 1199, though, construction stopped. This area now houses the mausoleum of Mohammed V, the first king of independent Morocco and grandfather of the current king.

 

Morocco: Land of contrast
The ancient ruins of the city of Chellah, built between 1310 and 1334 in the Roman town of Sala Colonia, are located directly outside of Rabat.
Morocco: Land of Contrast
The king’s palace in Rabat has beautiful gardens, and it’s one of the only places in the city to see grass.
Morocco: Land of contrast
Channeling a bit of Chefchaouen, a neighborhood in Rabat is painted blue and looks out over the sea.

We thoroughly enjoyed our time in Morocco, and we plan to return one day to experience the country outside of Ramadan. This unique and majestical country offers something for all tastes, and we certainly recommend it for other travelers.

-Monica

Lost somewhere in the crowds of Shanghai

The city skyline. With approximately 24 million people, Shanghai is the world's largest city by population.
Lost Somewhere in the Crowds of Shanghai
The city skyline. With approximately 24 million people, Shanghai is one of the world’s largest cities by population.

After a month of back-to-back travel, we have made it to China. Needless to say, life has been hectic, and I know I’m behind on posts. I have not forgotten about our blog post for our trip to Morocco, and I plan to have it up by early next week. Chris also has one more post about Switzerland, and then I will turn full attention to our new home.

I just arrived three days ago here in Shanghai, and Chris has been here two weeks before that. I don’t think it’s actually set in for either of us that were actually here. I mean, China, really? Last night as we were walking around, I told Chris it felt like we were in a Chinatown in some big U.S. city. But, alas, we are here, and we’re looking forward to experiencing such an exotic locale.

And, do I mean exotic! Every sense has been assaulted since I stepped off the plane. It’s really loud here, and I don’t mean the city noise. It seems talking at a normal range is overrated and shouting is the preferred method. I went grocery shopping last night, and I couldn’t even hear myself think in the crowd. As one of the largest cities by population in the world at approximately 24 million people, it’s easy to get lost among the chaos.

Groceries were also quite the experience. I stopped by a food market to look at the vegetables, and rounding the corner I ran smack into the live animal section. By live, I mean frogs jumping in cages and eels squirming their way out of the top of the tank (photos to come). Chris has already eaten a bullfrog, and not just its legs. As I wasn’t a huge fan of Chinese food in the States, I’m pretty sure I’ll be losing some weight here as I become a vegan.

Lost Somewhere in the Crowds of Shanghai
Yunnan cuisine is known for its use of fresh herbs and fish sauce. Here you see steamed potted chicken (center), (starting at the left and going around) konjac root jelly, small knife roasted duck, chopped pickled green mustard cabbage stir fried with ground pork, wild vegetable salad, steamed ground pork with bamboo, and bitter vegetables.

My first night here, we did enjoy a nice Chinese dinner at a restaurant specializing in Yunnan cuisine, food from the south region of China. As part of a cultural expedition, the local Shanghai Community Center sponsored a dining out where our guide explained the cuisine and how to eat it. We had an array of dishes from wild vegetables like pine needles to roasted duck to konjac root jelly, known as “poor people food” since you can eat as much as you want without gaining weight. I’m sure learning to eat with chop sticks (no forks in sight) can attribute to weight loss, too.

Being here only three days, I have already seen a new world. Shanghai is in extreme opposition to Zurich, and this will be a grand adventure. More posts are soon to come about the food, fashion and overall culture of this amazing country, and we hope you will join us for the ride.

Want to know something specific about China? Let us know in the comments, and we will work it into a blog post.

-Monica

Volunteering in Morocco: Our first trip

We're off to volunteer in Morocco
A Walkway in the Hassan II Mosque in Casablanca.

He who foretells the future lies, even if he tells the truth.

-Moroccan Proverb

We’ll be leaving soon for our first trip to Morocco and our first volunteer trip. We’ve booked a program through an organization that pairs travelers with local charities throughout the world. UBelong has set us up to work in an orphanage for abandoned children and destitute elderly where we’ll fulfill teaching and mentoring roles while we live with a host family in the capital city of Rabat.

Though we’re not exactly sure what to expect, we’ve been reading up on living and volunteering in Morocco. Our favorite reading, so far, has been The Caliph’s House: A Year in Casablanca by Tahir Shah.

The top tip for both we’ve come across is to be flexible. Though you should be prepared for anything, being open to flux in your schedule can lead to wonderful opportunities.

We’re taking this mantra to heart as we prepare for this once-in-a-lifetime experience. Monica is most looking forward to immersing into the Moroccan culture by living with and learning from the host family. Chris is most looking forward to immersing into the culture by seeing daily life with a Moroccan family while volunteering to help the community.

Monica’s biggest concern is the restriction on women. Morocco is a predominately Muslim country with conservative religious standards, but the country is seen as a more liberal than other Islamic nations. Chris is most concerned about immersing into an environment where the main language is Arabic and even the characters don’t hold meaning for us. The second language is French, which we have an extremely limited background.

We’ll be on holiday from the blog starting next week until Aug. 21 when we hope to post about our entire Moroccan volunteer experience. Until then, يسافر آمنة وممتعة

-Chris & Monica

photo credit: papalars via photopin cc

Going it alone: Tips for solo traveling

In a few weeks, I will take my first international trip alone. Gulp! Christopher and I will fly to London where he will take a train on to Birmingham, England, for a business trip. I will stay behind for three glorious days of sightseeing and diving into the culture of The Old Smoke.

I’ve taken trips alone before in the U.S., but this is a whole new ballgame. I wanted to start out safe, so I’ve chosen London for my first solo international trip due to (primarily) the language, similarities to American culture, ease of public transportation and world-famous sights. This is also my first trip to England (countless hours of layovers at Heathrow International Airport not included), and my first time staying by myself in a hostel. I’m a bit nervous, but more than anything, I’m really excited to tackle some more firsts.

Solo traveling like a pro

In preparation for the big trip, I’ve been reading up on blog posts and articles about solo traveling. Sites such as Oneika the Traveller and Solo Traveler have provided some great information. Here are some tips for solo traveling I’ve gleaned.

1. Know your surroundings

Safety is always a top-of-mind issue when traveling alone. I won’t have Christopher to watch my back, ward off unwelcome attention or follow aimlessly. I’m going to have to put on what I call my “city face” and know what’s going on around me. There will be no mindless strolling as I will need to keep an eye out for myself.

2. Be prepared

I’ve been working on an itenarery for the past few weeks and researching the layout of London. I’m looking forward to visiting Buckingham Palace, The Eye, Westminster Abbey and other great locations. I will gather public transporation maps and other tourist information brochures when I arrive. Having a plan in place will not only keep me busy but it will also keep the loneliness at bay and help me look like I know what I’m doing.

Going it alone: Tips for solo traveling
Fran and Dan were a lovely English couple we met on a pub crawl in Berlin. When you’re open to it, you’ll discover new people throughout your travels

3. Be open to meeting new people

I know up until now, it sounds like I’ve been completely warning against speaking to strangers. Absolutely not! I look forward to meeting other solo travelers and new people. I also believe it will be a different dynamic as Christopher won’t be with me to lean on in the conversation, so it will all be up to me to engage. Of course, I will be smart about it and enact some of the basic safety rules I learned as a child, but I don’t want to be scared of an opportunity to meet some interesting folks.

4. Take a book to meals

Though I’ve never felt too uncomfortable eating alone, I also don’t want to stare into space too much. Taking a book to meals can help avoid unwanted attention, signal to other solo travelers you’re also on a trip alone, and make great conversation starters. I’ll be reading Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.

5. Embrace the solo

As solo traveling builds confidence and decisiveness, I’m looking forward to learning more about myself through this trip. How will I do without a partner to share decisions with? Will I enjoy being alone or do I need constant company? Good or bad, this experience will teach me a lot about traveling and myself.

Do you have any tips for solo traveling or what I should see in London?

-Monica

Learning to haggle: A needed travel skill

Learning to haggle: A needed travel skill

 

Learning to haggle: A needed travel skill
The Grand Bazaar in Istanbul is home to more than 4,000 shops. Here, you’ll find silk scarfs, candy, dolls, shoes, housewares, and everything else imaginable

“We are here to help you spend your money. Let it go. God will provide you with more.” -Turkish salesman

It was our first day in Turkey, and we had decided to visit a smaller shopping area as a warm-up before hitting the big time at the Grand Bazaar the next day. Strolling down the shop-lined street, we were offered, cajoled and heckled by merchants selling silk scarfs, spices, nuts, candy, ceramics, rugs, paintings and more. Monica’s eye was caught at a particular stand by a painting she liked. As she stopped to admire the work, we were swarmed by three young Turkish men urging us into their shops to browse their selections of goods. We went along with one of the merchants to look at some beautiful ceramics in a blue glaze. Once we made our purchases at a bargained cost, the young salesman insisted we must visit his uncle’s fine rug shop. We followed him down the street where we watched a woman sitting at a loom handcraft the beginnings of a new rug. We were taken to a show room where we were showered with black tea, Turkish beer and candies. The uncle had two other nephews, as retail is a family affair in Turkey (and they want to make it seem even more so, often adding supposed “brothers” to the mix), roll out rug after rug, ensuring they flipped the handcrafted piece of art this way and that to show us the high quality of the material. We were left alone at least three times to discuss our buying decision. Each time the uncle returned, the deal got better or more was added to the deal, and we were consistently reminded how this may be the only time we would ever be to Istanbul. As I had experienced these aggressive sells techniques before in India, I wanted Monica to experience this tradition. By the time we left, without a rug, Monica was all too ready to turn over all negotiations to me as she found the entire process uncomfortable. This usually places us in the sometimes effective roles of “good cop / bad cop” in the merchants’ eyes.

 

How to haggle: A needed travel skill
Monica watched as a member of the family hand spun the beginnings of a Turkish rug. It is a common practice to sit in a showroom sipping tea as the merchant unveils rug after rug as part of the shopping experience.

How do you haggle?

Participating in haggling is as much a part of the culture in many countries as anything else, and it can be deemed rude if you refuse. Learning this, sometimes uncomfortable, skill can be a valuable addition to your traveler’s tool box. Here are my top tips to becoming an expert bargainer.

1. Set a budget and do not go over

When bargaining, some people tend to continue to escalate as many do with Ebay auctions. Set a shopping budget that you do not surpass. Do not reveal this limit when the salesman asks. He will set this as the floor, not the ceiling.

2. Split money into different pockets

I sometimes wear cargo khakis with several pockets to accomplish this. Put different amounts of money in different pockets and then remember what you put where. You can then tell the seller that all you have is $10 and reach into the pocket that holds only this $10 bill. If you pull from the wrong pocket, however, your bargaining efforts are wasted.

3. Watch a local

If someone else is bargaining for a similar item, hang around and watch the other person negotiate. If the price they settle upon is acceptable to you, move in and say “I’ll take one for that price, too.” Most  vendors will give it to you for the same price with no effort at all.

4. Blend in

If you are identified as a tourist, the opening price can easily immediately increase by 10 times. Try to blend as much as possible, but this can definitely be difficult if you do not know the local language. Again, pay attention to the locals and ensure your prices are reasonable.

 

Learning to haggle: A needed travel skill
Evil eyes are sold throughout Turkish market places. When bargaining, remember to go in with a set ceiling price and don’t go over it.

5. Watch your cash

Deal in small bills when possible and be careful with your change. Especially if they know you are out of place, vendors in many places will attempt to cheat you. Whenever possible, give the exact amount you negotiated on. When this is not possible, ensure that you repeat the price of the item and the amount that you are giving loudly before money exchanges hands. We have seen many tourists cheated through a variety of schemes.

6. Be willing to walk away

Once you reach the price you are willing to pay, walk away. Many sellers will chase after you and quickly reduce the price. At worst, if you decide that you’re willing to pay the price that the seller offered, you can always return later with a bit less pride.

7.  Ask for help       

If you are wanting to make a large purchase, continue waiting a couple of days until you have met a local who may offer help. If you cannot take a local, ask one or more that you encounter how much they would pay for the item. Realize that the taxi driver is not helping; he is only taking you to his friend’s store where he can receive a percentage of your purchase price. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be spending so much time during his day to escort you around town.

8. Reverse roles with the sellers

If multiple sellers are competing to sell you the same item, use this to your advantage and bring them to you. I have used this tactic several times to purchase baseball tickets from scalpers behind home plate for a fourth of the marked price. Just don’t act too quickly as they surround you with their offerings. First, identify the scammers and send them away. For example, at MLB games, it is common for a scalper to try to sell you a ticket to yesterday’s game. Calling one out loudly will usually disperse them all. Next, name your price. Those who are not willing to negotiate to this price will see that you have several choices and will also disperse. Then, choose the best remaining seat. This tactic also works with cheap trinkets and other mass produced items.

 

Learning to haggle: A needed travel skill
The famous Istanbul Spice Market or Egyptian Bazaar has one of the world’s largest selections of spices and teas. Be sure to watch where and how the locals shop.

9. Learn your numbers      

When looking at a foreign language, learn the numbers first. They are just as important as “Thank you” and “I am sorry.”

10. Embrace the experience

Though the negotiations can be uncomfortable for some, just remember this is part of the culture. When traveling, you’ll find there a many aspects of a culture you don’t enjoy as much as others, but embrace the experience for its overall part of the culture. Smile, participate, and know you’re learning a valuable skill.

“Everyone says I will be back tomorrow but no one ever returns. If you see a piece of art, you either buy it or you don’t. Do not walk away, sir. Look at her eyes. She wants this piece. Is there really any price too high to make her happy?” -Turkish salesman

-Chris

The (travel) stories we gather

The (travel) stories we gather
The (travel) stories we gather
We collected a variety of travel stories in Amsterdam. What are some of your best stories?

Susannah is an art dealer just returning home from a week in Basel, Switzerland, collecting pieces from a show. Ashley is on a short holiday between her study abroad trip to Rwanda and returning to school in New Jersey. Dominic is the only guy with a group of girls celebrating the end of exams at the university they all go to in Northern Ireland.

Stories are part of the travel experience

My homework was to use a type of questioning, narrative inquiry, to elicit stories instead of the usual direct method. The assignment was part of my master’s program class in Storytelling & Narrative Persuasion instructed by storytelling expert Thaler Pekar. The subject matter could be anything from business to family stories, and I had originally wanted to interview travel bloggers for the project about a post on solo traveling. After some disappointing non-responses, I decided to use the technique to still focus on travel, just in another way.

I’ve always enjoyed meeting new people in our travels, hearing about their adventures and learning from them. It’s one of my overall favorite parts of traveling. I wanted to see how the NI method would work in striking up these types of conversations with fellow travelers we met along the way.

Who we met

Chris and I were spending our weekend in Amsterdam, our first time in Holland. There was some confusion when we were checking in for our flight, and we ended up sitting in different sections of the plane. This presented my first chance to try out NI. I usually share in small chat with my seatmates, but I was a bit nervous about plunging into deep background with a total stranger. I started off small with Susannah the Art Dealer. Where was she from? An Amsterdam native. Where was she coming from? An art show in Basel. Did she have any suggestions where we should go in the city? Make sure we took a canal tour. Then I went for it. I asked her if she could tell me about her favorite trip. It didn’t go quite as smoothly as I expected. I was hoping for a story that would shed light on what she liked; what types of activities interested her; any insight that would tell me more about her. Instead she told me her favorite trips were to Cartagena, Colombia and the Tuscany area of Italy. That was it. I decided not to give up, though, and before the hour-and-a-half flight from Zurich to Amsterdam was complete, she did tell me the story of how she got into art dealing. With an entrepreneurial spirit, Susannah, with the help of her artist husband, decided to start collecting and dealing in art after seeing an exhibit in Asian art at the Rijks Museum. She soon after booked a trip to China and Japan, hooking up with a group of artists there quite unexpectedly, and has been specializing in Asian art for the past 30 years.

After parting ways with Susannah, we made our way to check into our hostel in the Red Light District. With 20 beds in the room, this was the biggest hostel room I’ve stayed in yet. Since I recovered from my first hostel experience in 2007 that was a disaster, it took Chris five years and us moving out of the U.S. to try again. My first hostel was in Brazil last fall, and I immediately fell in love with them. Bad or good, you meet so many intriguing people in these overnight barracks for budget travelers.

I first encountered our bunk neighbor, Ashley, when a group of Americans were talking in the middle of the room. We started chatting about our travels, and I thought she was one brave lady taking her first trip out of the U.S. to go on a school trip to help university students in Rwanda. I broke yet another preconceived notion, which you do a lot in traveling, about the African country I thought was nothing but a raging civil war. She assured me it’s actually quite safe, and she felt no danger there. I stepped into NI by asking Ashley what her favorite experience in Rwanda was. She told me the touchy story of how she taught the Rwandan students how to play on a swing set, something they had never done before. Check out her rendition below (sorry for the background noise, the Americans were busy swapping stories with the Irishman).

Dominic, his girlfriend, Maria, and her three roommates, Clare, Ciara and Tara, were in our room, and we shared stories from how their university houses students in an area called the Holy Land to Dominic’s concerns about undertaking a non-paid internship next semester in England. Though I don’t remember consciously using the NI method on any of them, we shared many stories throughout the course of the weekend. My favorite and most educational was when we were discussing how the same English words have completely different meanings in the U.S. and Northern Ireland. While I shared my embarrassing story of how my mother once used “fanny” with an English officer, Tara related her story of asking for a “rubber” one day in class during her high school exchange in Texas.

How to elicit stories, not just facts

Meeting people and hearing their stories is a remarkable experience. Not only do you learn from them, but you have a crop of stories to draw from when meeting others. When the subject of expat living comes up, I still like to tell people about our friend Tom. A native of South Africa, we met Tom in a hostel in Rio de Janeiro where he told us what it was like to work for a French company in Saudi Arabia.

How can you gather your own travel stories?

1. Be curious

There is a quote that goes something like “to improve your life, take a sincere interest in others,” and I’ve come to realize the absolute truth in this statement. To gather stories, you must show a willingness and desire to obtain them.

Though I haven’t seen it, yet, I’ve been told the documentary “The Stories We Tell” (I have to admit, I got the idea for the post’s title from this) by Sarah Polley is an excellent movie. Without Polley’s genuine curiosity, we wouldn’t have this award-winning film.

2. Don’t be afraid to talk to people

I’m not the most extroverted person, but I try to strike up a conversation whenever and wherever I can. You never know who you might just meet or where that conversation might lead.

During our weekend in Amsterdam, we were sat at a crowded café across the table from a couple that looked to be about our age. They didn’t seem to be the talkative type, but there was a break in the noise, and I decided to test the waters. Really, what was the worst that could happen? They tell me to bugger off? Fine, I would probably never see them again anyways. As it turned out, the woman worked in Zurich, and the man was a political Public Relations consultant in Brussels. We had an interesting conversation about some stakeholder research he was doing for the Belgium government, and we discussed his measuring techniques; quite a relevant topic for me since I’m taking a PR Measurement and Evaluation class this semester.

3. Don’t just ask the 5 Ws

When trying to elicit story, you have to change your line of questioning. This is what NI is all about. In PR, I was trained to directly ask the who, what, where, when and why. This indeed gives you information, but it’s just data. To get to the meaning and insight that can come from story, try asking people to tell you about their favorite trips, how they came to be in their professions, or something that gives you more information than just the straight facts.

While I still struggle with getting too personal and the vulnerability that storytelling creates, I’m beginning to seek out more understanding in my line of questioning by asking more than just what there is on the surface. When we were standing in the hour-and-a-half line to enter the Anne Frank House, we chatted up an older couple from Massachusetts on vacation before they left the next day for a religious trip to Israel. We first started talking as typical chitchat goes, but then I slipped into NI, asking for them to tell me about their back story, how they met, where they came from, etc. By the time we were at the ticket desk, they had shared how their ancestors immigrated into the U.S. from Russia and Poland at the turn of the 20th Century, and if they hadn’t, they may have also died with Anne Frank in a concentration camp. A story like that stops you in your tracks. NI can be uncomfortable, but when you’re rewarded with unforgettable stories, it’s well worth it.

I would love to hear your own travel stories. Share them in the comments below.

-Monica